https://www.averycollura.com/writing Writing on grief, love, and sobriety by Avery Collura. en-us https://www.averycollura.com/writing/grieving-friend-gone-quiet https://www.averycollura.com/writing/grieving-friend-gone-quiet Wed, 22 Jul 2026 12:00:00 GMT You did not mean to go quiet. You looked up around month three and the silence had already set in. This letter is for you, and it is not the telling-off you are bracing for. https://www.averycollura.com/writing/grieving-a-loss-you-chose https://www.averycollura.com/writing/grieving-a-loss-you-chose Wed, 15 Jul 2026 12:00:00 GMT When my college golf program got canceled, it was everything I would have asked for. It took me years, and a much larger loss, to see that I had also lost something that day. https://www.averycollura.com/writing/grief-and-sleep https://www.averycollura.com/writing/grief-and-sleep Wed, 01 Jul 2026 12:00:00 GMT For three years after Dan died, I woke at three and did not get back down. Then, in the hardest week of the year, in the city where it all happened, my body slept thirteen hours straight. https://www.averycollura.com/writing/when-a-grieving-friend-stops-replying https://www.averycollura.com/writing/when-a-grieving-friend-stops-replying Thu, 25 Jun 2026 12:00:00 GMT You sent the text on Tuesday. You showed up on Saturday. And then they stop replying, and you start to wonder if you did something wrong. You did not. https://www.averycollura.com/writing/the-day-i-did-not-brace https://www.averycollura.com/writing/the-day-i-did-not-brace Fri, 19 Jun 2026 12:00:00 GMT Three years since Dan died, and for the first time the anniversary did not flatten me. The hole opened at the kitchen counter, and I had a way to step into it. https://www.averycollura.com/writing/recovery-grief https://www.averycollura.com/writing/recovery-grief Thu, 21 May 2026 12:00:00 GMT I walked through an archway in a Melbourne pub and for a second I thought I saw Dan. What came up was not nostalgia. It was grief, a specific kind I am still learning to name.